tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post2730258060775333742..comments2023-10-18T09:24:06.238-05:00Comments on Stefanie Says: Context (eventually, anyway)Stefaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128238432671375399noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-43909055275732842012008-07-08T12:21:00.000-05:002008-07-08T12:21:00.000-05:00I agree with some of the suggestions as some frien...I agree with some of the suggestions as some friends of mine have had great success meeting people while volunteering or joining a special interest club. Friends AND family have found their "one true love" in a hiking club, sailing club, volunteering for a group that helps homeless teens (my sister - she actually found a fabulous DECENT guy and she usually ends up with complete idiots), etc.<BR/><BR/>My sister's beau was a good friend first and as they got to know each other the realized that he was a catch, but for a long time she did not think he was her type AT ALL. he's the best boyfriend she's ever had. Yay volunteering!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-66021176093957439582008-07-08T10:04:00.000-05:002008-07-08T10:04:00.000-05:00Stefanie - Actually the Jaycees is ONLY for people...Stefanie - Actually the Jaycees is ONLY for people ages 21-39 or something like that. People get TOO old for it. (Incidentally, if I recall, I think they called those people "aged out" or something equally lovely. They participated as non-members if they chose).3carnationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942247215569463561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-66334204883511305012008-07-07T22:59:00.000-05:002008-07-07T22:59:00.000-05:00Coming out of lurk-dom to say yes, you can meet th...Coming out of lurk-dom to say yes, you can meet the right person in a bar. I met one 4 months ago in a bar, and the sparks! Oh, the spark is so good. It's still going strong, and it is amazing. Don't settle... the real thing is SO worth it! I'm 36, and I really think this is the first 'real thing' I have experienced. Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-20937691770452786292008-07-07T21:15:00.000-05:002008-07-07T21:15:00.000-05:00Steve--I don't imagine it's all that different fro...Steve--I don't imagine it's all that different from the guy's perspective, is it? And volunteering? Yeah, I've thought about it, but I guess I'm just afraid of the commitment. (This could be my problem in relationships as well, couldn't it?)<BR/><BR/>Mair--I was! But now I am $1,100 poorer. Not so lucky. :-(<BR/><BR/>NPW--Thank you. I hope you're right.<BR/><BR/>3Cs--My parents were in Jaycees. For some reason I can't get past thinking it's for old people, even though I know full well my parents were my age when they were in it. (Man. I am getting old.)<BR/><BR/>Flurrious--Settling works in your favor? How so?<BR/><BR/>Liz--Yeah, I said that in the beginning of the year (that maybe I was supposed to meet the love of my life in December). Still, I feel like Charlotte in that infamous SATC scene: "I've been dating since I was 15. I'm exhausted. Where IS he?!?" (I haven't been dating since I was 15, but I see her point anyway.)<BR/><BR/>R--No such luck. Good thought, though.<BR/><BR/>Stacy--I didn't watch him while he worked, so I can't report back on the crack. Whew.<BR/><BR/>L Sass--Um, thanks? ;-)<BR/><BR/>Noelle--As you know, I did not get a hot plumber, but I did get a hot electrician. And I was no more able to step up than you were. Oh well.<BR/><BR/>Badger Reader--That's a good point. At least with any luck I'll end the year with a bathroom that doesn't embarrass me when guests are here.Stefaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10128238432671375399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-46410092249601741012008-07-07T14:16:00.000-05:002008-07-07T14:16:00.000-05:00I admire your perseverance and your continual effo...I admire your perseverance and your continual efforts inspire me to get back out there no matter how frustrating. I encourage you to listen to that meh voice and not settle for less than sparks. If it cannot be the Year of Stef in the lovelife department, at least it will be the Year of Stef's House in the improvement department. (I loved the rumpus room photos and can't wait to see what magic you can eventually do with a professional plumber in the bathroom!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-4761391004097043282008-07-07T14:04:00.001-05:002008-07-07T14:04:00.001-05:00I hope you get a hot plumber, and are able to step...I hope you get a hot plumber, and are able to step it up where I was not. <BR/><BR/>Also, I hope to send you an email soon about my latest internet dating questions.Noellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11567505547323976582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-20363683967354863212008-07-07T14:04:00.000-05:002008-07-07T14:04:00.000-05:00Not feeling any sparks is frustrating, but you hav...Not feeling any sparks is frustrating, but you have to trust your gut!<BR/><BR/>Here's hoping you'll be enjoying some hottie plumber's crack soon!L Sasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09852624970958809824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-69307071040912603702008-07-07T10:30:00.000-05:002008-07-07T10:30:00.000-05:00It could totally be the plumber. Let's just hope ...It could totally be the plumber. Let's just hope he's the kind that doesn't show his plumber CRACK. That's a turn off. Or a turn on? I'll let you decide.<BR/><BR/>On a different note, wow, plumber is a strange word to say in my head and type over and over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-42928247973772159512008-07-07T09:41:00.000-05:002008-07-07T09:41:00.000-05:00Good luck with the plumber! If it works out, mayb...Good luck with the plumber! If it works out, maybe you can get him to fix your shower for free.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-62569364552858566082008-07-07T09:08:00.000-05:002008-07-07T09:08:00.000-05:00Now remember, I didn't meet a guy until the end of...Now remember, I didn't meet a guy until the end of August, when it was the Year of Liz. (Let's just ignore how that romance eventually turned out, okay?) There's still plenty of your year left.<BR/><BR/>You make good points about online dating, though I have to say I don't think I'm ready to return to bar dating. I remember wearing those "beer goggles" more than once. Sigh.lizgwizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10907508137794025189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-58908264117109850082008-07-07T08:48:00.000-05:002008-07-07T08:48:00.000-05:00As I get older, settling seems more like a reasona...As I get older, settling seems more like a reasonable option, although that might be because it works in my favor as well. <BR/><BR/>I really enjoy taking my vacation in the backyard, although if I hear one more person say, "staycation," I will turn the hose on them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-75038650511798108222008-07-07T08:01:00.000-05:002008-07-07T08:01:00.000-05:00Thanks for the context. Very interesting.In the sa...Thanks for the context. Very interesting.<BR/><BR/>In the same vein as the volunteering suggestion, you should check out the local Jaycees. They have volunteering and social activities. I had a blast with them and met some interesting people. One of them eventually introduced me to hubby, who was a coworker of hers.3carnationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942247215569463561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-44643787368535605712008-07-07T07:32:00.000-05:002008-07-07T07:32:00.000-05:00Good for you, lady. There's a difference between g...Good for you, lady. There's a difference between giving someone a chance and settling and this post totally hit on it. <BR/><BR/>You WILL find someone fabulous. I know it.shelleycoughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04356701520189971892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-13521503887480576612008-07-07T06:50:00.000-05:002008-07-07T06:50:00.000-05:00Your point about seeing if there are sparks AFTER ...Your point about seeing if there are sparks AFTER you meet for the first time, per online dating, makes a lot of sense to me, whereas if you met in a bar, say, you'd already know if there was chemistry. And while bars have their downsides, not all are alike. I met many respectable men in said bars.<BR/><BR/>Hey! I bet you're still sleeping! Lucky!Mairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06258303964205159058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12047376.post-42603512277481175612008-07-07T00:58:00.000-05:002008-07-07T00:58:00.000-05:00Thank you for posting this, Stef. It's interestin...Thank you for posting this, Stef. It's interesting as a guy to read how the other half honestly thinks of dating. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure this has been suggested before, but in case it hasn't... have you ever thought of volunteering? A couple friends of mine have met great people while volunteering.stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16080222715917965784noreply@blogger.com